Building a Life After Divorce with Our Little Falls Family Lawyers Here to Protect Your Future
Seek Professional Help from Comprehensive Divorce Attorneys to Start Building Your path Towards a New Life after Divorce
When you come to consult with us regarding your divorce, you may likely be going through one of the lowest moments of your life. In addition to feeling the stresses of the aspects of your marriage have led you to decide to pursue a divorce, there is often a feeling of failure, worry about how to move forward in the face of a divorce, and concern about the financial implications of a costly divorce.
Our job and our number one concern is making sure that you receive the legal representation you merit in order to protect your assets and align you with a fulfilling future post-divorce. In order to do so, we handle the nitty-gritty details of the divorce settlement so that you can focus on your own mental, emotional, and physical wellness and navigate this transition with strength and grace.
We pledge that we will be by your side throughout the entirety of the divorce proceedings. Here are some ways that you can begin to orient yourself with your future while we go to work for you and your sovereign rights.
Hold Space for Yourself
It is often said that grief comes in waves and cycles. When you are going through the process of divorce, it is important to honor the transition as the death of your marriage and former life with another person. Regardless of the current dynamics of the partnership and the reasons for divorce, it is ok to grieve the end of a dream and a life that you shared with your spouse. You will likely go through moments in which you are in denial, or angry, or sad throughout the process. One of the best ways you can take care of yourself at this time is to allow whatever emotional experiences arise and tend to them as a mother would a child, without acting out the ideas you have when you are feeling these ways. It’s a wise time to remember the saying, don’t believe everything you think, and instead patiently hold space for a caterpillar becoming a butterfly.
Listen to, and Care for your Body
Continuing with the above point, remember that the physical body is a direct reflection of the mental and emotional states of its personality. Also remember that nine times out of ten, the mind wants the opposite of what is good for the person and that ten times out of ten, the body wants exactly what is good for the person. Undergoing such a stark transition as divorce usually comes with emotional upheaval, and those stresses cause us to act in ways that are not in service to harmony within our body and life. Listen closely to the body at this time, and dedicate yourself to taking care of your vessel. When you find yourself wanting to cope with your thoughts and feelings in unhealthy ways, instead turn to what you could nourish your body with to bring more balance.
Think in Terms of the Elements
In order to evade disease of the body and bring it into higher harmony, consider your thoughts, emotions, and physical body sensations as elements. When you are angry, you are within the element of fire. What are some activities and foods you could use to cool your fire down and ground it? When you are overwhelmed with exhausted sadness, you are within water. How could you lighten or energize yourself, and what grounding or lightening foods could you incorporate into your day to bring balance? The ancient Indian system of Ayurveda is a brilliant support for creating a life of balance and harmony from the inside out.
Let Nature Be your Guide
Nature truly is our Mother. The healing vibrations of the natural world within which we live can be one of the most potent salves for our healing hearts and minds at this time. Get your shoes off and walk barefoot on the grass as often as possible. Sit and watch the birds, or rest your back against the trunk of a tree while you read. Or meditate. Listen to the wisdom of Nature, and you will find your problems put into perspective and your hope amplified.
As noted before, during emotional times, we often cope in order to deal with our feelings. One of the ways we cope is by eating and drinking unhealthy foods and beverages. One way to mitigate this tendency is to consider that your pain – in all of its forms – at this time is a sick young child that has lost their way, and you are responsible for providing it nourishment so that it can merge back into integration with your healthier parts. Eat the whole rainbow, upping your intake of organic fruits and vegetables, and drink lots of water to stay hydrated. What we put in our bodies affects the balance of our minds as well.
Surround Yourself with Community
You know that you are in good hands with us as your legal representatives during your divorce. As such, consider us your community. Turn to us with any concerns or hesitations you may have during this complex process. Additionally, make sure you are surrounding yourself with a healthy community of your own. Gather around things that you love doing and sharing, like creative projects, the arts, wellness activities such as yoga and meditation, and learning groups such as book clubs. Explore what you love doing personally, and seek out others who enjoy doing those things, too.
Consult an Experienced Divorce Attorneys in Passaic County and across Northern NJ to Seek Legal Advice
Each day, you are one step closer to the life of your true dreams. With patience and steady orientation, you will cross the threshold into your new life healed and whole.
At The Montanari Law Group, our team of divorce attorneys supports our clients in Paterson, Hawthorne, Wayne, and across Northern New Jersey in resolving divorce proceedings fairly and rapidly.
To schedule a confidential consultation regarding your divorce, please don’t hesitate to fill out our online form or give us a call through our Little Falls office today at 973-233-4396 for a free consultation.